Something that comes up again and again is the question, ‘So who or what exactly IS a #BossLady?’ We are asked this question when we share content on social media, and we are asked this question in our day to day lives, when we tell people what we do and what our passion is.
The word #BossLady has been around for a number of years. In the workplace, it tends to refer to a woman who is an actual Boss. It mostly refers to a woman in a leadership position who is well respected for the leadership role that she plays. So generally, it is a term of respect for a woman in leadership.
At #BossLady we have extended this meaning to include all women. We know for sure, that there is a #BossLady inside every single woman. Each woman is the #BossLady of her own life, whether she believes it or not at this point.
Many women feel that they are not the #BossLady of their own lives. Some women feel that their partners are responsible for their happiness and well being, some believe that their workplace is responsible for their well being, some look to the government and so on.
It is only when we, both as individual woman, and as women as a collective, realise, that the true power to being happy and successful lies within us. The place where our wellbeing and happiness begins is inside of us, and that powerful place is our #BossLady~ness. It starts with our thoughts and beliefs about our self and our place in the world. It starts with our deepest sense of our deservability. And our determination to feed that deservability with all the tools and support that will waken us to our greatest potential.
Before I start waxing lyrical on this topic that I am so passionate about, let’s get practical. Here are some ways that you can awaken your inner #BossLady and be the power that she is.
1. Truly, truly love yourself
‘I’m not the average girl from your video, and I ain’t built like a supermodel but I learned to love myself unconditionally, because I am a Queen.’ India Arie
Often times easier said than done. It takes practice. We may find it easier to show our love to our partner and to our children but not so easily to ourselves. We may find it easier to let our child off the hook for a silly mistake, but may find that we spend hours berating ourselves for some less than major slip up.
Try this on for size: Stand in front of a mirror, and look deeply into your own eyes. Hold that gaze, while inhaling slow and long through your nose, and exhaling gentle through your mouth. Keep your eyes locked on your mirror-self while you keep breathing slowly and deeply. Notice what thoughts come up, and keep looking and breathing. When you feel ready, let your heart start feeling loving feelings for those eyes looking back at you from the mirror. Start feeling warmth and appreciation. Say, ‘Thank you, I love you’ to your mirror-self. Say, ‘Wow, you are beautiful, inside and out.’ Say, ‘Thank you, that means so much to me.’ And smile.
‘Do you want to meet the love of your life? Then look in the mirror.’ Byron Katie
2. Doing is always better than talking-about-doing
‘You can waste your life drawing lines, or you can live your life crossing them.’ Shonda Rhimes
A #BossLady knows when it’s time to step from planning to acting. Planning has its place – planning to change jobs, planning to start a diet, planning to save, planning to start a business. All well and good, but DOING actually gets the results. There is a time to shift from planning to actually doing, and that time is probably around now.
‘I had no idea that history was being made. I was just tired of giving up.’ Rosa Parks
3. Right on the heels of doing, is stepping up
‘The most common way women give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.’ Alice Walker
The true #BossLady spirit always steps up. #BossLadies step up when called. They step up at work, even when it’s not their job. They step up when their friends need an ear, or other support. They step up, even when it feels as if life steps down. Most especially when it feels as if life has stepped down.The magic happens when you say to the Universe, ‘Here I am. Full blast. I am ready and willing. Nothing is going to stop me!’ Click To Tweet
‘You ALREADY have what it takes to be a victorious, independent, fearless women.’ Tyra Banks
4. Honour your truth
‘I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself.’ Emma Stone
Joy and success in life is not about how he needs you to be, how she needs you to be, how they need you to be. Real #BossLady power lies in being who you really are. The gorgeous magnificent beautiful wonder of joy and success explodes when you commit to being yourself!
And I’m using the word ‘commit’, rather than ‘allow’. Because, again, this takes practice. Being a woman in a strongly patriarchal society means that we have been raised to play a role, shaped to best reflect a stereotype. The #BossLady within is having none of that! The #BossLady within is about being true. True to herself. And your life will flow with ease when you choose to hear her, and respect your truth.
‘If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be’ Maya Angelou
5. Be generous, with yourself and with others
Fear begets fear, lack begets lack. And conversely joy begets joy, wealth begets wealth. We can spiral up and we can spiral down. Either way it is our choice, our repeated thoughts, our words and our actions create the next experience and so on.
When we feel that there is not enough to go around, we withhold. And so, we tell the Universe that we believe in scarcity. Be generous, and you will show the Universe that you believe that there is enough. Be generous with your time. Be generous with a smile and a kind gesture. Be generous to yourself. Treat yourself, to some time on your own, to a walk in nature, to a good book, to a full body moisturize after your shower.The #BossLady within you, she loves generosity. She loves to self-treat, and she loves to care about others too. Click To Tweet
Well, #BossLady, we celebrate you and support you. We already see you as the magnificent, full blown #BossLady that you are!